Infertility Therapy
Has your journey to parenthood been harder than you expected?
Have you felt inadequate, as if your body is broken?
Does it feel as if none of your friends or family can possibly understand what you’re going through?
Are you struggling with the anxiety of waiting on the results of tests and treatments?
You're not alone...
Infertility effects 1 in 5 couples. Despite the prevalence, it’s not uncommon for couples to feel they are alone on their journey. Friends and family may not share their struggles or feel they will add to your stress my talking about it. Often, this response leaves you feeling even more alone, unsure who you can talk to about what you are experiencing.
The challenges of infertility are layered. You may wonder if you did something to cause these challenges or if you should have started a family sooner. You may feel shame and embarrassment around your difficulty starting a family, even if you know that you aren’t responsible. You may feel frustration and anger toward loved ones who are discussing their pregnancies and new babies. You may be confused about all of the decisions you need to make regarding planning your family. And you may be dealing with medical trauma related to infertility treatments.
Infertility therapy can offer the support you need
If we could make starting a family painless and effortless for you, we surely would. We can offer you the emotional support that’s likely missing from many of your medical appointments and conversations with family and friends. We understand the scheduling, decision-making, and organizing that’s involved with family planning after a diagnosis of infertility. With infertility therapy, we can offer you tools to organize your thoughts and make the decisions that are best for your unique circumstances.
Many of our clients struggle with anxiety around what the future will bring. It’s hard to hold out hope when some couples never become pregnant, even with treatment. The anxiety can become distracting at work and make social events less enjoyable. We can help you gain perspective around your own prognosis. With infertility therapy we can help you manage the anxiety associated with awaiting the results of tests and fertility treatments. We can also help you manage the great unknown of the future.
Therapy for infertility can offer you a safe place to honestly talk about what you are feeling and thinking. If you’re having anger toward your pregnant best friend, we’re here to process that without judgment. If you’re feeling resentful toward your spouse who doesn’t need to undergo extensive testing, we can truly validate the normalcy of that experiences. We can’t tell you what the outcome of your journey will be, but we can help you build your confidence that you can handle whatever comes your way.
Therapy for infertility is the missing piece in your family planning journey
Infertility treatment centers are heavily focused on your medical needs. You can feel like one of many people seeking treatment and it can feel as if you’re lost in the shuffle. Sometimes bad news is broken to you with little follow up emotional support. At times, you might be left wondering whether your emotional experience is normal. You don’t want to be a “debbie downer” at every party discussing your struggles, but you need a place to talk.
We think mental health care should be part of all family planning. We’re here to support your emotional needs no matter how you decide to tackle the infertility experience. We can help you make sense of your options and explore next steps. We can validate the emotions you’re experiencing because we’ve seen them before. We can help you cope with the waves of anxiety that go with each test and treatment.
You need somebody who gets it
When looking for infertility therapy, you need somebody who really understands the process. You don’t need to spend time proving to your therapist that you really are struggling with infertility. You don’t want to explain every treatment and test you’re undergoing. You need to be able to jump right in to where you are in the process and what your current struggles are.
We’ve heard so many stories about well-meaning friends and therapists saying you just need to relax and you will become pregnant. We know how painful these comments are and we also know how bad this advice is! You aren’t causing your infertility with anxiety and you can’t “just relax” your way out of anxiety anyway! We want to help you feel hopeful about your future, however that may look for you. You really can handle the challenges that come your way with the right support.
Nothing you can say will take the pain away
This is so true- we can’t take away the grief associated with infertility. We can’t undo your reality and we won’t present you with the “silver lining” to your struggles. We can’t take all of the pain away, but we can give you the tools to tolerate it and even grow from your experiences. We can help alleviate some of that pain through emotional support and validation of your experience. We offer a safe place to say how you really feel without judgment or over-simplified solutions to your challenges.
I don't know how I can fit this in with everything going on
If you’re undergoing fertility treatments right now, this is likely one of your major stressors. How can you possibly fit in another appointment? Let’s start with a free 15 minute phone consultation which you can schedule online, via phone or by e-mail. To make things easier, our therapy sessions are available online in New Jersey or Pennsylvania, in-person Morris County (Succasunna) or Sussex County (Newton), or a hybrid of both options!
I'm not even sure how to talk about it
You might be afraid that expressing your fears out loud will make them come true. Or you might just not know where to start. Many couples going through infertility have never needed therapy before and the whole idea of infertility therapy feels foreign. We’re here to make you comfortable and to figure out where to start. We start our first session building a relationship with you and asking questions to truly understand your story. Don’t worry about where to start; let us help you figure that out.
Reach out to us today for the support you've been craving
We want you to feel confident in your ability to navigate this difficult journey ahead of you. We aren’t afraid of what’s to come and we want you to have hope for the future too. Contact us today for your free 15 minute phone consultation. Share your pain points and we’ll share how we can help.
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