Marriage Counseling
Have you lost your connection with your partner?
Do you feel more like roommates than a couple in love?
You can’t find the time to sit down and talk together about everything that’s been building up.
You feel invisible in the relationship but talking about it just seems to cause a fight.
You need to find the time to get on the same page and work as a team.
Your relationship once seemed so effortless and carefree, but now you barely remember what that was like. You’re so busy with work, school, activities, children, and other demands, that you haven’t had the energy to address the building problems. Now, it seems as if it’s so far gone, you’re not sure how to get back to a balanced and connected partnership.
You’re not on the same page with parenting. The mental load of family and household care feels imbalanced. You’re both so tired at the end of the day, it’s just easier to go to bed and deal with it all tomorrow. You’re past the point of being able to reconnect with a simple night out; you think couples counseling might be in order.
Your Relationship Isn't the Same Since Starting a Family
There’s nothing like the birth of a child, or the combination of blended families, to add stress to a relationship. Even if you love your family and your children dearly, it’s incredibly common to find your marriage or partnership suffering. All couples face challenges along the way that require attention and energy to resolve.
Many couples find themselves observing other families from a distance and wondering why it seems easier for others. Shame and embarrassment often keep couples’ relationship issues hidden from the public eye. Many couples feel a good relationship wouldn’t “need” marriage counseling or couples’ counseling. This couldn’t be further from the truth. The healthiest couples face their challenges head on with a plan to get to a better place. With the support of an experienced therapist, you can begin to reinvest in your relationship again. You can find yourself reconnecting with one another as a couple once again.
Marriage Counseling Can Help you Reconnect
Whether you’re married and seeking marriage counseling or partnered and seeking couples counseling, we are confident we can help you reconnect. Yes, you will need to find at least one hour each week to invest in your partnership. But we’re confident that investment in your relationship will pay dividends. Often, the act of setting up an appointment and sitting down together once a week causes a felt shift for couples.
All of our therapists starting our work as family therapists. This means we don’t just treat individuals, we treat the whole family system. We are experienced at looking at the couple as a whole, as well as getting to know each individual. What are your needs, fears, worries, and hopes for the future? How can you, as a couple, both get your needs met?
We work from an attachment based perspective, meaning we look at your family history, your role in your family of origin, and how you learned to navigate relationships. We’ll help you understand how your partner is viewing the relationship’s challenges and we’ll help your partner understand your perspective. We will give you actionable tasks to work on during the week, but we also help you dig deeper. What was the bigger meaning behind that argument that made it so emotional? Did you feel like a failure? Did your partner feel invisible? We can guide you to a deeper understanding of your relationship conflicts and help you find ways to support one another in reaching resolution and growth.
Drawing from our experience as family therapists and psychodynamic therapists, we really believe couples benefit most when they know each other on a deeper level. We will help you understand the meaning behind the emotions in your relationship and how to meet one another’s needs with empathy and love.
You think you need couples counseling, but you still have questions...
Is going to couples counseling just a sign that the relationship is over?
In our experience, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Couples that show up for counseling are brave in the face of their challenges and invested in improvements. They want things to get better and they know that they don’t have all the answers. While some couples do inevitably decide to end their relationship, rarely does couples counseling contribute to such a decision. We have seen so many couples find ways to reconnect, rebuild, and grow their love for one another. Don’t let fear hold you back from your true potential as a couple.
We're already so busy. How can we possibly work on ourselves?
We can’t give you an extra hour in your day, but we can assure you that investing an hour of your week into your relationship will pay off. Everything is easier when both partners are on the same page. We find that couples spend less time dealing with schedule mix ups, conflicts over resentment build up, and frustration with day to day life when they get clear on their values and start working on their partnership. These changes don’t “just happen” and require some up front effort in couples therapy.
What if we can't talk about anything without fighting?
We’re not afraid of conflict. We also know that trying to talk things out in the heat of the moment makes it really hard to be productive. Your protected hour a week in marriage counseling is a time where you can both show up calm, cool and collected (or not) to tackle your challenges. We’re here for you in the hard sessions and the fun ones. We can give you the tools you need to start talking about your relationship struggles without shouting or silent treatments.
Reconnecting as a couple really is possible...
Investing in your relationship is an investment in your personal wellbeing, your future self, and your family. We know marriage counseling has brought positive changes to so many couples. We offer convenient face-to-face sessions in Roxybury (Morris County), NJ and Newton (Sussex County), NJ. We also offer telehealth and hybrid sessions to meet your needs!
We hope that you’ll reach out to us today for a free 15 minute phone consultation. Find out how we can help your child thrive!
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